Leadership Development Newsletter Week Four

I trust that you were able to apply curiosity last week.

How did you get curious with yourself? How did you get curious with others? What did you get curious about?

Last week, I had the opportunity to apply the law of curiosity with myself. I had the opportunity to meet a business associate to experience her Reiki sessions. Reiki is a way to move energy through your body. As she was debriefing me about my session, she indicated that I had a closed heart and she felt that I was not initiating self-love.

Wow! What a way to get curious! I applied the curiosity to myself and asked myself where was I not loving myself. To be honest, I though that I had really done some great inner work around self-love and loving myself where I am at the moment.

As I was going through the exploration, I realized that I had some definite gaps in loving myself. I realized that I had been telling myself that there were some things that I really needed to work on; however, I kept putting them off.

What was the reason that I was putting them off? I was procrastinating because the work required doing some uncomfortable investigating. I have been going through a cycle of doing some deep healing around losing my father in 2015. I realized that I was beating myself up for not being where I thought that I would be in life at this moment. I realized that I had been stepping away from many and finding comfort in the solitude and quietness. However, as I was seeking quietness and solitude, I was becoming busy with things that were not moving me forward and taking me back to an old story. The old story was hiding my emotions and not allowing myself to sit in my emotions, feel my emotions, thank them for protecting me, and then letting go of them.

This realization then lead to me to ask myself what else was I not allowing myself to let go of. What else was not serving me, yet I continued to hold onto it for comfort?

Self-love is not always about massages, sipping tea, and bubble baths. Sometimes, self-love is digging into the areas that we consider the darkness. Oftentimes, we hide behind our darkness because the light is so much more comfortable. Sometimes, self-love is forgiving ourselves and learning where we may have gaps in our growth.

As I continue my journey both personally and professionally, I am taking the steps to get uncomfortable and enter an area of discomfort. I realize that I don’t have to do it alone and YOU don’t have to do it either.

Community is so important to us in so many aspects. As we navigated the pandemic, so many of us felt that we were isolated and alone. So many people were not ready for that isolation as they valued the community that they had at work or at church. We lost that community quickly for about a year. Together, we are navigating finding that community again.

I would like to invite you to share your growth experience with a community of like-minded individuals. During the next week, we are beginning to embark on two different personal growth opportunities. Growth in communities is so important.

If these are not the ideal opportunities for you, I would like to invite you to a community that will be opening on May 8th. I am opening a community where like-minded people who are embarking a journey of transition can come together and share their experiences while still learning about themselves in the process. This community will meet weekly and then have an opportunity to work 1:1 with me. If you would like to learn more about this community, I invite you to schedule a 1:1 virtual coffee with me. https://calendly.com/chele726/30-minute-discovery-call

Thank you for being on this journey to discover your own leadership.

Have a blessed week.

Your Guide,

Michele Coy